Sly - here is something else you can try -it is a little tip from Walter to check your servers email sending capability. It came from this thread http://freewaytalk.net/thread/view/97305
Walter said
Here’s a test script you can try from this server, and see if it works. Copy the following, paste it into a new text document (use TextEdit in Plain Text mode, or TextWrangler) and save it as a cryptic name, like asdsad8u.php. Use an FTP or SFTP application to place it on your server. Then go to that address in a browser. See if you get an e-mail message. Either way, delete the file so it’s not hanging around on your server.
<?php
$address = 'youraddresshere';
mail(
$address,
'Test message from the server',
'This message was sent from your server',
"From: {$address}",
"-f{$address}"
);
print 'Message sent';
?>